The Stewards Of Our Own Energies

I'm a big Rob Bell fan. I could seriously listen to that guy for hours. I've yet to hear him explain how paint dries, but I'm sure that he could turn that into a beautiful story filled with life-changing wisdom. He's just a gifted communicator. 

Anyway, my podcast listening time is limited to driving solo to + from the gym. Jenny isn't a fan of podcasts + my kids definitely won't let me focus. And I like to take in every word, rewind if something magical is shared + just soak up all the knowledge my fellow humans have to offer through story telling.

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So there I was driving to crossfit this morning + fan-boying over Rob's take on life's biggest questions. Then it happened. He said something that forced me to pull over to the side of the road because I just had to process instantly.

"You are the steward of your energies. Own the responsibility of being you."

Simple. Profound. Quite possibly life changing. Only time will tell.

I used to be careless with my time. Too much tv. Too much fast food. Too many video games. Too much of not doing anything that brought me lasting joy + lit my soul up. But now? Life is different. I probably spend way too much time on things that bring me pleasure. Scratch that, there's no such thing as spending too much time on things that bring you pleasure.

Meditation. Reading. Drawing. Conversations that don't involve the topics of weather or how busy my is. Reiki. Diving deep into who I am. Crossfit. Eating good, whole foods. 

Something about the way Rob said "You are the steward of your energies." As in, I have control over my energy. I can actively take care of my energy. I can "Own the responsibility of being me" as he says. Here's the thing. There's not much in life we do have control over. We, as humans, have to be comfortable with that or we're going to feel a whole lot of unnecessary suffering in our lives. And I'm done with unnecessary suffering.

Don't get me wrong, I still feel pain, that's unavoidable, but suffering? Suffering doesn't have to be a part of our lives. The people I spend most of my time with don't always react the way I want them too. My kids still have cystic fibrosis. I don't travel as often as I'd like. Living in the suburbs of Kansas City is not the most inspiring place for me. I don't really feel home here. All of those situations could lead to suffering. But by actively paying attention to where my energy goes, I can eliminate the suffering from my life. 

I am actively taking ownership of my energy, a finite source, I might add. I'm accepting that there are countless things outside of my control + not letting them zap my precious energy anymore. It takes work. It takes finding what fills you up + then doing those very things. It requires rest. It requires that you own being you, fully. 

So what feeds you? What are the things gnawing deep in your inner continent that want to be released out into the world? What lights you up? Do you have the energy to pursue those things? Where is your energy going that's negatively affecting your life + relationships? Are you ready to make a change?

I can help you if you're ready to relax, realign + reset your energy centers.

From Can't to Can

I recently saw this video on youtube entitled Do What You Can't (you can watch it below) 👇🏼

It got me thinking about all the times I told myself I couldn't do something. Like the time I told myself I couldn't run a greeting card company based on encouragement cards. Or the time I told myself it would be crazy to take my family to Thailand (did that + these pictures prove it). 

Or the times I told myself I couldn't be a good husband + father. That it's not possible to heal yourself without medication (Note: sometimes we do need western medicine). That I'm not a good artist (it's art, some people will like my art + some won't + that's totally cool). 

I think about how my attitude changes when I'm living out the I can'ts vs coming from a place of I can. Living from a negative, fear based mindset will lead you to failure (most of the time). It will leave you feeling unfulfilled when you lay your head down at night. Most importantly, you will constantly feel off. I lived that way for a long, long time.

It took courage + work + a sense of exploration to change my entire thought process to a more uplifting one. Each + every single time I went out + did something I originally told myself I couldn't do I got braver + stronger + pushed myself to do even crazier things. It took stillness + self-love + a deep sense of enoughness. It took understanding how breath/mindfulness + cold exposure affect the body (yes, that's me a few winters ago sitting in the ice hole I made myself).

You have that power, too, and no you don't have to sit in the ice to access it.

The tiny voices inside of you are trying to tell you something. Maybe you need to take control of your health + start eating better + moving more. Maybe you work at a job that you dread. Maybe you're feeling stressed + overwhelmed in your personal life because you've taken on too many responsibilities. Maybe you have a passion project, a book, a business, a dream that you want to put out in the world but don't know where to start + that feeling like it'll never happen won't go away. All of these signs that feel off are trying to tell you that it's time you made some changes. 

You have the power to take control of your life. It lives inside of you. Your body was created to keep you alive + healthy. You own all of the tools you need, right now. You need an energetic reset to find the you that has been missing. I can create a space for you to get rid of your anxiety, shame + limiting beliefs. You don't need them in your life. They don't serve you. 

From meh to WHAAAAAA?!?

You ever think about how long life feels sometimes? And yet, as the years go on, it seems to really fly by. 

Have you thought recently about all the things you're 'meh' about lately? Maybe it's your job. Maybe there's some romantic relationship that needs to go away because it doesn't light you up. Maybe you're unhappy with where you live. Maybe you need to get outside and be more active or eat a little bit healthier. 

Life is too precious to spend so much time in the 'meh' zone. 

But I get it. Making changes. Getting healthy. Taking care of yourself requires courage. It requires a LOT of effort. Finding fulfillment takes bravery + work. 

Unfortunately, no one is going to be able to do that work for you. It requires you to pour your heart + soul + everything you have into self-care. It requires bravery + for you to step up + do the hard things you KNOW deep down you feel called to do. 

I recently read some wise words in an excellent novel by Nicola Yoon. "Life is too dang long to spend doing something you're meh about." 

Take a moment to reflect on all the things you're meh about right now. Little meh's. Big meh's. Think about all the meh's in your life.

Now take a deep breath. Fully in. Hold it. Hold it. Hold it for a bit longer. Fully out. Now take another one. Hold that for a few seconds, too. Feel the air fill up your belly + then take another inhale right into your heart. Sit with the relaxation. Exhale + relax.

Still with me? Good. Now that you're calm, take a few moments to ask yourself how can I turn those 'mehs' into WHAAAAAA's.

A WHAAAAAAAA is something you're extremely excited to be doing in any given moment. WHAAAAA's are what you feel called to do in the quiet moments...in the stillness. WHAAAAA's might be keeping you up at night with joy. You deserve a whole heckuva lot of WHAAAAAA's in your life. 

Feeling a little bit overwhelmed? Here's the good news. I can help you get to a space where your WHAAAA's far outweigh your meh's. Book an All the Heals session now + let's work together to snuff those meh's right out.