The Mindfulness Found on the Water


4 years ago I was in Mexico + noticed a company that would let you try out SUP boards. I've always had this love of surfing, but no skills, so I decided to give it a go. I put my leash on. I grabbed the paddle & started out on my knees. I paddled a bit, stood up & instantly fell off. I got up, stood up, paddled a few times & then the tide pushed me into the rocks, where I fell off again. I stood up, scraped up & paddled towards shore.

A seed was planted, though. Because I've been wanting a board ever since. Last week, my board finally came in the mail. I chose an inflatable one for portability + the convenience of taking it wherever/whenever. I chose it because the workout of inflating it gets my heart rate up & even more stoked to get out on the water to cool off. 

And I'm in love. I got it Friday + have taken it out 3 times so far. As I was paddling around I realized how calm I focused I mindful I was to every single movement. The rhythm of pushing down + back while in your stroke...the way you switch hands + do the same thing on the other side. If I start thinking too much, or overcompensate in any way, I fall in the water.

Like a lot of things in life, we can learn some valuable lessons when learning new skills + intentionally creating space for growth. There are so many parallels between my meditation/mindfulness practice + SUP boarding...

  • You must stay present or you fall. When you stay laser focused + present to each movement you enter a state of relaxing flow. Productivity (speed) increases, stress releases, you only care about the task at hand. Just like in life. When you're present, you're able to focus on whatever task is at hand + to let go of future worries or past regrets. 
  • You must keep your head up + eyes forward. If you look down, or back, or anywhere other than straight ahead, chances are you're going to lose balance, focus + probably fall (or at least wobble a bit). Keeping your eyes set on the bigger picture helps to ensure you're going where you want to be going + let go of the small stuff.
  • Deep breaths keep you calm + stable. Deep breathing helps in so many ways, but I found myself focusing on my horizon while taking deep breaths in + out. Being out on the water, inhaling the fresh air...I could feel my whole body relaxing into a deep state of bliss. It just feels right + natural to be out there, bobbing on the little waves...slowly paddling at my own pace.
  • The let go. No phone. No beeps. No ads. No politics. No responsibilities. No expectations. No stress. No worries. Being out there, I feel instantly taken to a different world where I have nowhere to be + no time to be there. The let go is refreshing + energetically resetting.

Chances are there's something in your life where you enter into a state of flow + relax. If not, I urge you to play + embrace your inner child until you find whatever it is that let's you relax + check out of the world for a bit. I'd also urge you to try out a SUP board if you never have. I knew I'd be getting a good core/stabilizing workout on my board. I didn't know I'd be getting such a great mind workout as well.

To Be a Helper

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I don't know when exactly it started for me, but at some point after I grew out of my rebellious angsty teen phase I decided I wanted to be a kind man. Someone who helped + gave + served wherever I could. To be the type of person that will see things that can be done + do them. 

I don't know if I am 'there' yet, or if I'll ever get 'there' or even what 'there' looks like. But what I do know is this...

Each + every morning I put out into the universe for opportunities to show up in my house, in my community, wherever I may go on that day...that there might be an opportunity to help someone. 

I'm a big believer in the things you put your energy towards have a greater chance of coming into your life. And creating a present space where I put out in the world that I'm looking for opportunities to help someone seems to always bring me plenty of opportunities to do so.

Like the time I was helping my parents pick out + load their new dining room chairs. We were in the parking lot + a lady asked if I could help her fold her van seats down...that she'd just got her new minivan + couldn't get the seats down. It took me a few minutes to show her exactly how to do it, then she gave me the warmest smile, the biggest hug + I was on my way. I was a helper.

Or all the times I find myself in conversations where nothing is asked of me but to listen. Friends who are struggling, hurting, or just need to know they have people in their life who care about them. Giving my time + listening ear is a way to be a helper.

Sometimes I feel called to write encouraging messages on rocks or leave letters of encouragement for strangers to find. (Note: I ALWAYS have sharpies/pens on me because you never know when inspiration is gonna strike). In those moments, I see myself as a helper, too.

I'm sure there are countless other times I've helped people. Teaching the kids about heart focused breathing so they can better regulate their emotions, holding Jenny when she has a rough day, helping a friend move. There are so many opportunities each day to help one another, if we just pay enough attention to our surroundings + trust our intuition.

My goal as an Energy Guide is to help as many people as possible. It's as simple as that. Life is hard sometimes. Life challenges us. Life stresses us out. Life never stops coming at us. Technology beeps at us. People in our life get sick. People in our life hurt us. So often we're just reacting to what comes our way that we're not taking the time to pause + nurture our bodies that get us where we need to go.

Because of life + me wanting to help you, I created a donation based mini Reiki/Breathwork session. We'll focus on one specific issue that we'll figure out ahead of time. I'll guide you through some breathing techniques while sending some warm Reiki energy your way. You'll feel great afterwards, I promise.

So what are you waiting for?


I'd love to hear how you're showing up as a helper in your life! Leave a comment + let me know!

The Stewards Of Our Own Energies

I'm a big Rob Bell fan. I could seriously listen to that guy for hours. I've yet to hear him explain how paint dries, but I'm sure that he could turn that into a beautiful story filled with life-changing wisdom. He's just a gifted communicator. 

Anyway, my podcast listening time is limited to driving solo to + from the gym. Jenny isn't a fan of podcasts + my kids definitely won't let me focus. And I like to take in every word, rewind if something magical is shared + just soak up all the knowledge my fellow humans have to offer through story telling.

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So there I was driving to crossfit this morning + fan-boying over Rob's take on life's biggest questions. Then it happened. He said something that forced me to pull over to the side of the road because I just had to process instantly.

"You are the steward of your energies. Own the responsibility of being you."

Simple. Profound. Quite possibly life changing. Only time will tell.

I used to be careless with my time. Too much tv. Too much fast food. Too many video games. Too much of not doing anything that brought me lasting joy + lit my soul up. But now? Life is different. I probably spend way too much time on things that bring me pleasure. Scratch that, there's no such thing as spending too much time on things that bring you pleasure.

Meditation. Reading. Drawing. Conversations that don't involve the topics of weather or how busy my is. Reiki. Diving deep into who I am. Crossfit. Eating good, whole foods. 

Something about the way Rob said "You are the steward of your energies." As in, I have control over my energy. I can actively take care of my energy. I can "Own the responsibility of being me" as he says. Here's the thing. There's not much in life we do have control over. We, as humans, have to be comfortable with that or we're going to feel a whole lot of unnecessary suffering in our lives. And I'm done with unnecessary suffering.

Don't get me wrong, I still feel pain, that's unavoidable, but suffering? Suffering doesn't have to be a part of our lives. The people I spend most of my time with don't always react the way I want them too. My kids still have cystic fibrosis. I don't travel as often as I'd like. Living in the suburbs of Kansas City is not the most inspiring place for me. I don't really feel home here. All of those situations could lead to suffering. But by actively paying attention to where my energy goes, I can eliminate the suffering from my life. 

I am actively taking ownership of my energy, a finite source, I might add. I'm accepting that there are countless things outside of my control + not letting them zap my precious energy anymore. It takes work. It takes finding what fills you up + then doing those very things. It requires rest. It requires that you own being you, fully. 

So what feeds you? What are the things gnawing deep in your inner continent that want to be released out into the world? What lights you up? Do you have the energy to pursue those things? Where is your energy going that's negatively affecting your life + relationships? Are you ready to make a change?

I can help you if you're ready to relax, realign + reset your energy centers.